The Lutheran Homeschooler’s Most Important Tool: The Parish

Cheryl Magness The Homeschooling Educator 10 Comments

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In the Lutheran homeschooling family’s toolbox, there is no more important item than the Lutheran parish. In fact, it might be more accurate to compare the parish to the toolbox itself. Without it, there is no way to keep all of the other tools in the box in good condition. As a toolbox protects and organizes a variety of useful implements, so the parish provides meaning and order to the homeschooling family’s days.

There are as many different ways to homeschool as there are homeschoolers. Some families take a more structured approach, following a traditional school day, but in the home. Others lean toward the “relaxed” or “unschooling” model. Each family has to decide for itself what works. But there is one thing that we should all agree on, whether our children are being educated at home or in a Lutheran day school, a private school, or a public school: As Christian parents, our most important duty is to bring our children up in the faith. It is not a job we can hand off to anyone else, but it is a job for which we can look to our church for guidance, encouragement, and support.

My husband and I began our homeschooling journey almost 20 years ago, when our oldest was in second grade. Through all those years of ups and downs, productive days and disastrous ones, trying this curriculum and that one, and worrying regularly about how it was all going to turn out, the thing that has remained constant has been our church. We have changed parishes a few times over the years. But what has not changed is the role of the parish as the organizing principle of our days. Everything else may have gone completely out of control, but between Sunday morning worship, midweek catechesis, and our family’s involvement in the work of the church (music, acolytes, youth group, altar guild), there has been order. What a blessing, when it is time for church, to simply go and be fed by Word and Sacrament! What a blessing to set aside whatever challenges or headaches we may be currently facing in our homeschool day to go to church for an activity or service opportunity and to be built up by our brothers and sisters in Christ!

Considering the LCMS’s history of planting and supporting day schools, it is perhaps not surprising that there has sometimes been tension between Lutherans who homeschool and those who do not, particularly when there is a Lutheran day school available. Yet I think that as we all realize that we have the same goals, that we are in this thing together, and that for various reasons we sometimes make different choices, that tension is on the decline. In every place that my husband and I have lived since having children, there has been a Lutheran day school available. Yet we have for the most part been supported by both our parish and the day school in our choice to homeschool, and for that we are grateful.

There are multiple ways the Lutheran parish and the homeschooling family can be a blessing to one another. The parish that supports a day school can consider ways for the day school to open its doors to homeschoolers. Might it be possible for the homeschooling family to participate in field trips, sports, choir, or other extracurricular activities, or to take one or two classes at the school? On the flip side, how might the homeschooling family serve the day school with its time and talents? My oldest son is an accomplished chess player. Some years ago he was invited to one of our day school’s classes to assist with the students’ learning of chess. Another time my daughter, who plays piano, served as accompanist for the elementary musical. Both my children and the day school students were blessed by these experiences.

For homeschoolers, an ongoing challenge is to keep “life” from getting in the way of “studies.” (I put both of those in quotation marks because most of the homeschoolers I know will tell you that life is the best form of study.) When big changes happen (new baby, job change, move, illness), it can be difficult to keep hitting the books. In our own homeschool, when everything else has gone by the wayside, there has always still been church, providing a focus and order to our week. An extension of church is family devotional life, and in this area, the parish can be a great source of support. By communicating with the pastor and/or cantor, homeschooling parents might choose to synchronize home devotions with congregational worship, spending time at home studying readings and learning hymns that are coming up at church. Children love what they know, and their faces will light up in delight when they hear a reading or get to sing a hymn that they have already learned at home.

Ultimately, the best thing the church can do for homeschoolers is simply to be the church. We may not always get math and science done, but we never stop praying. When we are so tired that even our prayers fail; when we feel like societal weirdos because of the educational choice we have made; when we get to the end of another long day of homeschooling and wonder what was accomplished besides survival—that is when we need our church more than ever, speaking words of both Law and Gospel, reminding us that whether we homeschool our children or send them to a public, private, or parochial school, life in this world is life under the cross, and nothing is a sure thing but the love of Christ Jesus, who died on that cross for the sins of all, no matter where they went to school.


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Cheryl Magness

Cheryl Magness

Cheryl Magness is a writer, musician, and editor. She has bachelor's degrees in music and English and a master's degree in literature. Cheryl and her husband Phillip are veteran homeschoolers with three children ages 13-24. You can find more of Cheryl's writing at The Federalist and Sister, Daughter, Mother, Wife.

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10 Comments on "The Lutheran Homeschooler’s Most Important Tool: The Parish"

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Jenn W

This is Great Cheryl!!
We’ve been homeschooling for 15 years and were active duty military for 20 years. In all that time being able to have a solid “home” in the church has always made all the difference. Many things change, frequently. But, God’s Word of forgiveness in Christ has been preached to us through the various pastors we’ve had in many locations. Whenever everything else has fallen into the deep end of life, we know we have forgiveness, and we know where to look for it.

Heather Weber

Most excellent description of homeschooling! We all do it differently, but our goal is the same- the education of our children to be productive in God’s world and shine His light to the world around us.

Laura Warrick
Amen!! We are so thankful for our LCMS church when it celebrates our accomplishments as well. At times of graduation, our daughters were included in a baccalaureate service held for the graduates who were church members, and to which the high school across the street as well as schools across Austin were invited. My son is hiking the Appalachian trail right now (age 17) and the pastors and men’s Bible study prayed for him before he left ( ) and continue to do so. Your description mirrors our experience, and I’m grateful you took the time to share.
Janice Boelkrt

Our church has opened the doors to homeschoolers that would like to take other courses that the parents can’t offer at home. The program is called Educational Resource Center and is also opened to all of the community. We ask the parents what they would like to see the children learn. I am on the Board of Christian Education and we oversee the ministry.


Very encouraging!

Jeremy Hanson

At Mt Calvary Lutheran Church in San Antonio, TX, we have our own Co-op for Homeschoolers every other Friday during the school year. Last year was our first year as a Parish Co-op and this coming school year we will continue growing with a larger number of families from not only the parish homeschool families, but also to local military homeschool families. Can’t wait to see what this coming year will bring!

What a great topic. We come from a church where our kids were part of the church’s school before we pulled them out to homeschool. We were not ostracized by our church, but we were not supported either. We were not aware we could, nor were we invited to, be a part of the schools activities or classes. The youth group at the church was made up of kids that attended the day school and when we began to homeschool our kids were, in a sense, alienated. Not necessarily by the youth leaders. We knew the youth leaders loved our… Read more »