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For most parents, the topic they do not want to talk about with their children can often times be the one they allow society to teach their children about. For many people, that topic is sex.

The Sixth Commandment

Thou shalt not commit adultery.

What does this mean? We should fear and love God that we may lead a chaste and decent life in words and deeds, and each love and honor his spouse.

Todd Wilken, host of the radio show Issues, Etc., interviewed Rev. Dr. Matt Rueger, contributor to the CPH title Ethics of Sex: From Taboo to Delight on sex education in our society. It’s a fascinating interview:


One of the things that hit me square in the face when listening to this episode was how accurate he described the reality of how our children are taught sex ed today. My undergrad work was in exercise science, physical education, and health education. Looking back on how I was taught, it is fascinating to think of how much time we spent on sex, how much time my professors spent downplaying the seriousness of sex, redefining its meaning to their classrooms full of 18–22-year-old men and women, and teaching us that even though we lived in an abstinence-only state, here were the ways you can get around the law to teach your students the most important thing they needed to know, which was “how to get access to the pill” and “how to use a condom”. You know, because “kids will be kids” and “they’re going to have sex anyway, so we might as well make sure it’s safe.”

If you listen to the interview, everything Rueger says is true about how our public universities train health educators. I went through everything he describes and was instructed with those methods.

I don’t write this to scare you. Sex education is a tough topic for any parent. It’s one we might shy away from. But it is important for you to understand that the worldview Rueger describes is a reality your children may experience out in the world. It is a worldview that may be pushed on them.

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So what, as parents, do we do about this? Do we shy away from our responsibilities to our children and just let the world teach them its ways? Do we give in and just accept the thought that “kids will be kids” and they are going to have sex no matter what we do?

The answer is no. The answer is we catechize our children. We teach them what God’s Word teaches us about sex. We teach them about the value of chastity. We teach them about the gifts God has given us.

Teaching these things might be tough for us because we might feel like hypocrites. Maybe we didn’t live chaste lives. Maybe when we look back, we see a life that we aren’t proud of, one that we don’t want to admit to ourselves, much less admit to our children. Brothers and sisters in Christ, we have a Savior who paid for our sins. We confess that we are all poor, miserable sinners. Do not delight in it, but confess it, and run from it! Do not hold back from teaching your children the truth because you were not able to uphold God’s Law. No one can. There is no one who is righteous, no, not one (Romans 3:10, Psalm 14:1–3, Psalm 53:1–3). We rejoice in God’s saving Grace and forgiveness.

If you are looking for help, let me recommend to you two things:

First, go pick up a copy of Ethics of Sex and Sexual Morality in a Christless World and read them. You need to understand the Lutheran worldview on these topics. The world has spent so much time twisting the truth, and these books will point you back to what Scripture teaches and demands of us on these timely and relevant topics. You probably won’t use these books with your children, but the information you learn from them will help guide and lead your conversations.

Second, as you talk and teach your children about chastity, consider using the Learning about Sex series of books to aid your conversations.

God’s blessings as you teach your children the faith that was once for all delivered to the saints (Jude 1:3 ESV).


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Joe Willmann


Joe Willmann is the Senior Instructional Designer for Concordia Publishing House in St. Louis, MO. A former teacher and administrator, Joe has a passion for education and learning theory. He earned his Bachelor's Degree from Ball State University and his Master's Degree from Concordia University - Ann Arbor. He lives with his wife, Nicole, his daughter Ava, and his son Carter. You can read his latest posts here.

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